Franz Kafka was a 20th Century German writer. His pieces usually explored the absurd and how we as humans respond to its occurrence. The term “Kafkaesque” is used to describe happenings that are so preposterous that they are humorous.
Faith is funny as well but its definition is a bit trickier to for me to figure out. I suppose it boils down to trust; trust in your God, yourself, your family, your friends, ect. That somehow, someway, something or someone will come through for you. Faith is practical and completely irrational and yet with outs dobut it’s crucial to our lives.
I lose faith constantly. Some days I feel the Universe’s only aim is to discover and implement innovative ways to foible my plans or ruin my day. It doesn’t take much for my mind to dive into this paranoia; case in point yesterday, Monday, President’s Day began with my left headlight bulb blowing out. Nothing too terrible, just a warm up exercise as far as the Universe is concerned. I got home ready to sleep off that minor annoyance but as soon as my head touched the pillow I remember that I had forgotten to do my Chinese homework! I got up and looked for my textbook and it was nowhere to be found. I mean nowhere. It was not in my car, not in my room, not in the kitchen, not in the refrigerator, nowhere! By now it was 6:30am and my eyes were blood red. I thought up this quick plan: Class is at 1pm, the campus bookstore opens at 8. I’ll sleep until 9:30 and then get up early and buy the textbook, do my homework, copy the pages I need, and return it before class.
Good to go, right?
I woke up at 11.
I hauled ass to campus and made my way to the bookstore. They were out of copies of the text….It has to be pre-ordered it and since it’s being shipped from China, it will take three weeks to get here. Oh and before they’ll order it, I have to pay for it… Whoo! The Universe is up and snacking on some Wheaties, now.
So, second idea: I’ll head over to the library and see if they have a copy on reserve. Nope.
I head back to the bookstore and buy the text, the whole while spazzing about how I’m going to do this…
SN: After I left the bookstore a man stopped me and said hello. I was so frustrated at this point but he had such a sweet smile! We did the basic small talk thing and wished each other luck in our endeavors. I shook his hand and he gave me a hug. It made me feel awesome!
Third idea: Go to the Language Lab and see if they got a copy. Nope. Now I’m in full on panic mode. It’s a quarter to twelve. And I’m out of options.
Ok Universe you win, please give me a break, just one.
Fourth idea: The Confucius Institute! I know for a fact they have the book! I’m so excited I started to jog over to the building the office is in. Finally, things are looking up! The Universe doesn’t hate me! Today, I win! I get there and see students lined up outside the building. I asked a woman what was going on and she told me that the building was on fire….
The building, my last hope, was literally in flames. Thoroughly defeated, I walked away sulking.
The building was on fire….the building was on fire….the building was on fire…
My giggle turned into a chuckle, then escalated into roaring laughter. Double You Tee Eff!!! I couldn’t stop laughing! This entire day was so nonsensical that laughter was the only appropriate response. I instantly felt better. I made my way to class prepared to tell the truth and accept the consequences. I saw a classmate waiting by the door and he let me borrow his textbook. I made the copies I needed and returned to the room to find that class had been cancelled. I started laughing all over again.
The Universe doesn’t hate me, it never hated me. God doesn’t want to see me sad or frustrated or hurt. He wants me to make it through His trials with faith. He wants me to take comfort in the fact that no matter what I feel or think, someone is looking out for me. I drove home feeling warm, happy, and safe.
March 6, 1963: A. Philip Randolph (third from left) meets with other organizers of the March on Washington at the Roosevelt Hotel in New York. Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. stands to his right. (photo: OFF/AFP/Getty Images)
“In 1941, I was working for $10 a week in the philosophy library of the University of Chicago. I had got my PhD the year before. But $10 a week didn’t allow me to live very luxuriously, in fact, I was living rent-free in a basement. One of the disadvantages was that I had to face down a barricade of rats in order to get to the basement. And that put me in touch with the black community which was also facing rat-infested housing.
It was July 1941 and A. Philip Randolph was calling upon blacks to march on Washington to demand jobs in defense industries. Because the depression that ended for white workers were not for black workers. When Franklin Roosevelt heard about the march, he begged Randolph to call it off. Randolph refused. Mrs. Roosevelt begged him to call off the march, Randolph refused. And eventually FDR issued executive order 8802 (Fair Employment Act) banning discrimination in defense plants for blacks.
That changed the life of blacks and made me decide I was going to become a movement activist. I didn’t know what was going to happen. I’ve been so fortunate!”
The 1941 March on Washington never happened. FDR did issue an executive order, which was enacted into law as the Fair Employment Act. Randolph’s idea later came to fruition over 20 years later when he directed the 1963 March on Washington. With 250,000 people attending, it was the largest peaceful demonstration for human rights in U.S. history, and the setting for Martin Luther King Jr.’s legendary “I Have a Dream” speech.
The audio above features A. Philip Randolph speaking at the 1963 March on Washington. His voice is deeply sonorous and moving in its call for equality not only for the sake of African Americans, but for all people.
Yesterday at my “fairly easy job,” my boss called me up for a powwow to discuss my yearly performance evaluation. It is comprised of 5 categories where you are graded on a scale of 1-4: 1 meaning “below expectations,” 2 - “meets expectations,” 3 - “exceeds expectations,” and 4 - “far exceeds expectations.” I scored a 2 in each category. Of course I disagree with the score and when pressed as to why I’m merely meeting expectations despite the book of training material I created, my ability to move between both job sites, and the fact that I earned two awards for outstanding performance in 2011, he replied that I had plateaued. Where once I was working really hard at streamlining SOP’s and producing training materials (in addition to my normal duties) now I was just coasting. He’s 100% correct of course. Once I realized I was doing 25% of his job for 0% of the credit and no extra pay, I put my energies into accomplishing what I came to San Antonio to do in the first place (www.npsbound.tumblr.com).
I know what you’re thinking—Oh another Gen-Xer with an entitlement attitude complaining about having to put in work to rise up in the ranks—right? Quick background: I get my five year coin next month— I trained my boss after he was hired a year and some change ago. When he goes on vacation or on assignment, I stand in for him. I’m sure there’s a very valid reason I’ve been passed up for promotion twice and I’d love to hear it.
Anywho, needless to say, that 15 minute meeting tainted the next 24 hours. My sour resentful mood followed me home, into my dinner, and then into work later on that night. I bitched to my co-worker (I know, I know. Pray for me) and was exhausted for the rest of the night. I was still seething during my drive home! There was no way I could bring this vibe back into my household.
I need to get over this.
People always tell you to don’t hold grudges, get over it, move on, ect. But I don’t hear any advice as to how. So here are three things that helped me to calm down:
1) Accepting the possibility that I was wrong.
Sometimes we balk at things because there’s a hurtful truth to be found in them. Embrace your character flaw and use that anger to strengthen your weakness.
2) Realizing I had spent entirely too much time on this.
Your time is too valuable to spend in anger. Designate a close friend to vent to. Warn them of the impending bitchfest first, though. Once you get it all off your chest, take a deep breath, and leave it off! Don’t re-hash the same points over and over again trying to demonstrate how right you were. If you were right, it will shine through. If you were wrong, hopefully you’ve chosen your friends wisely enough that they will check you on some nonsense.
3) At the end of the day Love wins.
I swear to you, if no one is dead then it’s not that serious. Nothing is beyond fixing once you learn to forgive.
Good luck and remember it’s okay if you stumble through things, life is practice.
5 Things I've Learned this Week from Sloppy People
I consider myself very lucky. I have a fairly easy job and work with fairly decent people. It’s that rare once in awhile treat of a shift with the office’s disgruntled-ball-of-nerves that makes it all truly rewarding though. I always come away with a new life lesson. Tell me what you think of these leave-it-to-beaver gems:
1.) Strangers aren’t your friends. They are strangers. Be wary.
At the beginning of any relationship is that critical getting-to-know-you phase. This is the time in friendship building where you learn about the other person; that sometimes awkward journey through their likes and dislikes, personality quirks, and overall demeanor. THIS IS NATURAL AND NEEDS TO HAPPEN! Random Toms, Dicks, and Harrys should not know that you do side-work for the mafia, enjoy auto-erotic asphyxiation on the weekends, or do eight-balls during your lunch break. This knowledge will develop over time. Lesson: Out-of-the-blue confessions to people who haven’t earned your trust/respect is only fodder for future gossip.
2.) Respect the separation of Work and Home.
If your spouse didn’t put his/her hands on you, then there’s really no need for anyone to know about anything going on at home. I’m single, the best I can do is tell you how awesome life is without a husband and kids. Lesson: If you are going through some things, tell your friends and if you aren’t sure who they are see No. 1 above.
3.) Stop bitchin’.
I’m so guilty of this! I will complain to anyone willing to listen just for the opportunity to open my big mouth. After eight hours of hearing someone bellyache over a molehill, I apologized to all my co-workers and started life anew on a fresh path! To all my fellow complainers there are two things you should know: a) No one gives a damn. Seriously, no one cares about how screwed up things are with the leadership or about the schedule or “how things should be done around here!” Just stop it. Just. Stop. It. 2) The complaint more than likely has nothing to do with you and you are just adding your outside-lookin-in two cents. I’m certain that the saying “adding my two cents in,” is a testament of how much an opinion is really worth… So Ms. Tiara, from this day forth you will not shoot off at the mouth about things you aren’t 100% on and you will not bitch about things that take a phone call to fix or things that can’t be fixed. Lesson: I got 99 problems and yours ain’t one.
4.) Negativity is draining
I can understand not being into different things, new places, and/or fresh faces…On second thought no, I really can’t understand that. At all. Lesson: If your first response is usually “no I don’t do that” followed by “what is that?” Just shhh. Shh. Trust me. Shh.
5.) Real badasses do alot of punching not talking.
People can’t create their own reputations, their actions speak for them. You can gab all day about what you would have done or how you don’t take any shit but #WeDon’tBelieveYou. The proof is in the pudding and until I hear from someone else that you were all up in so-and-so’s face I’m just going to smile and nod while reading the latest issue of VIBE. Lesson: Quiet dogs bite hard #mosdef
So, did you recognize yourself in any of these examples? If you did, what are you going to do to change? Are there any other sloppy people habits that annoy you? Tell me about them.
now I’ve had Kimchee before (and it was delicious!) but I wanted to know what else you could do with Napa cabbage and it was only $1.75 lb so why not?
First off, if it’s just you, be aware that a head of Napa Cabbage is huge…no seriously, I’ve been eating off of this thing for two weeks now and there’s still so much left…
Second off, if you have a neighbor or are into dinner parties then you just figured out a way to get rid of half of it!
Now then what did I do to that cabbage tonight?
I made teriyaki porkchops with sauted napa cabbage.
Heat a pan of olive oil and toss in some garlic and the ginger (a tsp of each is plenty), then add the sliced cabbage. I cooked it on low while tossing it with a spoon.
Heat another pan with olive oil, and add the pork chops. Season and add two tblsp of soy sauce. Now you gotta be careful here. If the pan is too hot the soy sauce will burn and you’ll have a gooey mess. I kept the stove on medium heat throughout the ten minutes I cooked the meat.
Poke the middle of the chops with a fork and press down on the holes you made with fork. Are the juices running clear? Then you are good to go! Add the cabbage to the pan with the meat and toss of that together for 2-5 min depending on how crunchy you want the cabbage to be. Add 2 tblspn of the Soy Vey! or whatever teriyaki seasoning you have last.
One big mistake I made was not cooking the pork long enough. I ate the cabbage while I microwaved the meat for two min. The cabbage by itself is awesome!
Do you like greens? What is your favorite kind? How do you prepare them?
As a proud member of That Nation (ihustlenation.com), I can’t wait on Jan. 1st to change. It starts now. So here are a few of my “Now” Year’s resolutions.
Working out daily
I need to meet certain physical fitness requirements to reach my career goals. The minimums are so stringent that I need to pound the pavement daily. This has been a hard one to keep (it’s cold outside!) but I’m excited about the challenge. Plus droppin’ it like it’s hot is so much easier when you don’t have too much to drop.
Using more seeds
I’m a hardcore gardener (facebook.com/urballife) and it gets expensive. Seeds are cheap but hard to start and they can take weeks to get to the transplantable stage. There’s a few propagation classes I can take that will teach me how to grow the plants I want from seed and how to harvest seeds from plants I see around town. Hide yo pots, Hide yo plants cuz I’m snatching seeds from everybody out here!
So as it turns out, the world is huge and I’ve only seen a little bit of it. Let’s remedy that in 2012. I want to take a four day weekend each month and see something new. It could be a new city, new culture, new play, or new country, just as long as it’s something I’ve never experienced. What are some cool places you’ve been to? What would be your dream vacation? Where do you dream of visiting? What are you doing to get there?
Aligning the tongue in my mouth with the tongue in my shoe
I can be flaky as hell and I hate that! This year, when I make a promise, word is bond, son! I will do what I say in a timely fashion and over deliver, especially when I make promises to myself.
I’m pretty lazy. I’m not sure why but I am. Sleep is just what’s up to me and that needs to change. I need to become accustomed to moving 18 hours a day, 6 days a week (Saturday is fun day!).
I want to cultivate a unique style and look. Something that you’d expect to see me in and then I’d like to play around with different styles. I may even start wearing make up. Perhaps, I should take a sewing class…
So what needs to change for you in 2012? What are your “Now” Year’s resolutions? What’s your plan for success? If you don’t have one check out ihustlenation.com for tips. What do want 2012 to bring you?
I’m so happy I’m at a point in life where I can eat whatever I want. whenever I want. My Thanksgiving dinner consisted of mac and cheese, cranberry sauce, sweet potatoes, and oxtail stew. It was a good weekend. I hope you enjoyed yours too! Tell me a little bit about it. What did you have for dinner? Did you have family over or did you head over to a relative’s place? How was the food? did you try anything different? How was it?
It’s draining… and not just of your energy! Sex kills your drive, creativity, and your bank account. I’ll give you an example. Single women, perhaps a typical sexual encounter goes a little something like this:
You get off of work on a Friday at 5pm, spend the next two hours getting ready for another dinner date with your steady. You want this one to be special though so you hit Frederick’s beforehand and pick out something nice and maybe a few mood setters. $75 later you gas up ($40) and head over to the place. You enjoy a pretty average meal and decent conversation. It’s 9pm and you’re really tired (work was killer) but now it’s movie time. Nothing good is out so this is just two hours of foreplay before yall head back to your place. You have him wait in the kitchen while you get all set up. Candles, scented oils, and your new costume. But none of that matters too much. He giggles at your outfit, says the candles smell weird, and spills the lube. Awesome. At least the sex was nice but now you’re knocked out for the next 8 hours. None of that schoolwork you meant to do this weekend gets touched. Saturday morning, he’s still there and y’all have sex again. Saturday afternoon he’s still there and yall fool around while watching cooking shows or Star Wars or whatever. Saturday evening you do it all over again except this time you pay for the activities (that’s another $80…$40 if you have a single creative bone in your body). Your whole weekend, gone. For some penis!
Imagine how much more work you could get done if you moved your focus to something else. Imagine the money you could save going out to have a good time instead of man-hunting. Imagine the money you could make if you took those wasted weekends and started your side hustle!
We lead lives where ass rules everything around us!
Prime example, I went home last weekend and my friend, Saul, brought his fine self around. Admittedly, I took the bait and it was well worth the slip up but check this out: the day before I promised my nephew that we would go to the park. Saul and I were in that room laid up until 2pm. My nephew had been dressed and ready to go since noon. I didn’t get there till three. What’s even worse is that I would have been okay cancelling with my nephew and chilling with Saul for the whole day. Sex had me considering breaking a promise to the most awesome little kid in the world.
So I’ve come to the conclusion that I should just masturbate. Especially when it comes with these great benefits:
1) It relieves stress.
It really is the best way to start the day. Trust me, the high of a good orgasm will get you through morning rush hour. And since you are doing all the work, you only have to worry about getting yours! #winning.
2) The little you can teach you a lot about the big you.
Learning your triggers, turn ons, and spots will enhance intercourse once you are ready to engage in it again. Just developing an understanding of your body chemistry will key you into all types of things that you’ve never noticed before. It’ll at least make for interesting Gyno appointments.
3) The end of Awkward moments.
That awkward moment when she’s still there in the morning. That awkward moment when he uses your body wash. That awkward moment when negotiating who has to sleep in the wet spot. The awkward moment when there is a wet spot and it’s in your bed. The awkward moment when he shows up at random moments unannounced. The awkward moment when she asks you where this is going… <—ball all of that up and throw it in the garbage, son!!!
4) Goodbye pregnancy scares, hello longer nails!
Some people think that condoms are negotiable and at a time where AIDS, Herpes, and the clap exist… this alone should be enough to scare you into a nunnery/monastery.
5) Guaranteed orgasm.
Each and everytime! Kinda hard to fake it when you are masturbating.
So light some candles, run a bath, turn on some Otis Redding and go play.
Last weekend I went home to Georgia to see my family and friends. After three days of fun, great memories, and laughs, I decided to make the last dinner at my favorite pizza place, the Pizza Joint. The very lovely server (whose name currently escapes) me suggested I try the new seasonal offering from New Belgium Brewing Co. called Snow Day Winter Ale (6.2% abv). Of course I agreed to try it and I was not disappointed! I’m no beer connoisseur so I’ll just tell you what I thought, it was full, not heavy; smooth, wonderful drinkablity; and the taste of cloves took me back to turkey and ham dinners at my parents’ house.
This is the description of Snow Day Winer Ale on the New Belgium website:
Pleasantly hoppy, Snow Day carries the subtle chocolate and caramel flavors of a new brewing malt known as Midnight Wheat. The Styrian Golding, Centennial and Cascade hops bring the backbone of hoppy bitterness to complement the roasty undertones. This beer is the deep garnet of a roasted walnut and presents a creamy tan head, floating artfully atop. Snow Day is bold and hoppy, drinkable and strong. It reminds you to enjoy the unexpected.
Picture above is the beer I was served…I tasted no chocolate or caramel, it’s not the garnet hue of a roasted walnut and that head was whiter than the one on my chin…
Before I screamed shenanigans, I went to the store and bought their Folly variety pack that includes 3 bottles of the Snow Day Winter Ale (look for a review next weekend). The bottled version, however, featured that chocolate and caramel taste and beautiful garnet color…hmm…
I wanna know what they served me at the Pizza Joint!!! It was delicious…
*That’s Stella in the picture above; I had two sips and asked for another round of the mystery beer, it was that good!”
Life has been along time coming and it still isn’t here. Don’t worry you have plenty of time. Enjoy this. Enjoy the worry, the hassle, the pleasure, the strife, the experience, and most of all enjoy the fact that tomorrow is a new day. You don’t have to do or be everything today. Success is something only you can define. Slipknot was right when they said “People=Shit” but that’s no excuse for treating them as such. I think you’re really hot and you should too. Consistency is difficult so try and be honest. The only thing holding you back from greatness is your own laziness. You know what it takes; get up, get out, and get it done! Oftentimes It’s not enough to say it, you have to show it. It may look fun to be cool but it’s so much more awesome to be you. Before you do anything drastic or hell, even minor, ask yourself this question, “Is this action going to add or subtract from the amount of control you have over your environment?” Use the answer to guide your actions.
With my best wishes for new knowledge and success,
Hey there old lady!
Twenty years till the most epic party the world has ever seen! I’m freakin’ out just thinking about it!!! It’s important for you to realize that you are at the forefront of every decision I make in life. I’ve done the utmost I can to make you proud of me and hopeful of the future. I pray I’ve succeed in that. I think about you often, your face, your laugh, your hair. I wonder if life has taken it’s toll or if you’ve remembered to smile big and laugh loud. I wonder if you are able to keep patchouli in your yard. I wonder what kind of pets you have. I wonder if you are happy and I pray you aren’t satisfied. I hope you have seen Antelope Canyon, Monument Valley, Aurora Borealis, Iceland, Maldives, South Africa, Machu Pichu, and thousands of other places you’ve only dreamed of. I hope you’ve conquered your penchant for sloth. I hope your big losses turned into even bigger wins.
Above everything else, I hope as you read this that you are smiling. I’m so fucking proud of you.
For far too long, I’ve underestimated American beer. My only real exposure to domestics had been Anheuser-Busch and after being throughly unimpressed, I made it law that the label of any beer I drank could only be 40% in English. Then I was introduced to craft beers. Oh dear my heart lurches to think of the years lost to snubbing black lagers for merlot. I remember clearly my first sip of Blue Star Breweries ACCF’s award winning Maibock. Pale and malty, it was the perfect accompaniment to my Walter Moseley novels. I was in craft beer heaven and there was no going back.
So after my sample of their seasonal Winter Sno-Cap brew at Auden’s kitchen, I was orgasmic to find Pyramid Breweries Fall Sampler at HEB! This case featured their Thunderhead I.P.A., Apricot Ale, Juggernaut Red Ale, and Hefeweizen. The alcohol contents range from 5-6.5% so lightweights (i.e. me) should sip slowly. I loved the Apricot Ale, and the Hefeweizen. The Apricot Ale was smooth and the peculiar fruit choice was pleasant. The apricot was not terribly strong and I felt so naughty drinking the rebel beer (really though, who would have thought to use apricots?). The Hefeweizen was exactly what I expected. I’m not so much into I.P.A.’s to begin with so I wasn’t surprised that I didn’t like it, and the Juggernaut popped my red ale cherry. I hope it was as good for Pyramid as it was for me ;)
Last Friday, in observance of Veteran’s Day UTSA’s AFROTC paid homage to each of the service members, federal agents, contractors, and support staff who were killed on duty in the last ten years. Family members, volunteers, UTSA staff, and service members read off all 6314 names of those lost. I couldn’t get clarification on whether or not it was exclusive to casualties during Operation Enduring Freedom.
There were some Pride of Barbados seeds I wanted to collect in the same area as the ceremony. I heard names being called out on the PA first, as I approached. I saw AFROTC cadets slowly walking up the entrance to the courtyard. I slid out of the way and sat down on a bench to find out what was going on. A large, squat man in a suit greeted me and asked if I was a family member. I shook my head and he shook my hand. I gazed about— everything was very somber, very serious and rightfully so. The military is rife with ceremony and ritual. I knew this but I was ignorant about how to respond as a civilian. I tried to imitate the man who greeted me. Standing while he stood, sitting as he sat until I realized no one else was moving. I moved to a sunnier spot and watched.
Every 15 minutes or so a new announcer would relieve the current one and the guard would change. An AFROTC cadet would walk slowly in a cordoned off area as the names were read like she/he was standing guard over a treasured area. As a new guard came to relieve her/him, a higher ranking cadet would inspect the new guard. The higher ranking member would forcefully take her/his rifle and inspect it closely, testing its level and shine, then delicately hand the weapon back. Now, it was the oncoming guard’s turn to be inspected. The guard stood at attention while the higher ranking cadet looked her/him up and down carefully from all four sides. The foot movements were sharp and quick while body movements were slow and deliberate. Finally, once the higher ranking cadet was sure of the guard’s worthiness, she/he was allowed to proceed into the cordoned off area. The relieved guard was given a soft “fall out” order by the higher ranking cadet and they walked slowly up to the entrance of the courtyard, waiting for the next change of the guard.
This had been going on since 8:30 that morning. Providing for the moment of silence, names had been called out for 7 hours. Students stopped occasionally to watch, some even sat down. On student in particular interrupted the ceremony by trying the walk through it to the buildings on the other side. A cadet stop him and told him to walk around. Startled he apologized and said “There’s no sign, I didn’t—there should really be a sign up.” The man who greeted me tried to give the young man a tutorial in respect but he kept complaining that there should have been a sign up.
I guess this is what he was looking for.
The hardest part was listening to the family member’s call out their loved one’s name(s). This was timed so that it was the last name called. One man dressed in jeans, boots, and a long sleeved plaid shirt was especially choked up. The PA system kinda cut out as he got to his son’s (?) name. He sat alone on the same bench as me as he was relieved by another family member. He sat with his eyes closed, sniffing quietly. his grief was palpable. I sat there thinking about all the things I could have said or done to help him not feel so alone. I wondered about fear and signs and courage and family and grief and loss. I haven’t come to any conclusions just more thoughts.
Sorry I’ve been AWOL lately there’s just so many amazing things going on right now! One of those amazing things was Diwali San Antonio 2011. Diwali is the Hindu/Buddhist/Jainist festival of lights that celebrates the triumph of good (light) over evil. It’s five days of candles, dancing, colorful decorations, and great food. Last weekend San Antonio, TX observed the festival at the Hemisfair Plaza. I met up with the San Antonio Young Professionals and the Fine Arts meet up (http://www.meetup.com/SA-FineArts/) and had a blast lighting candles into the lake, doing bollywood zumba, and watching all the performances. I can’t wait till next year!
How was your weekend? I got 99 problems but boredom ain’t one! Let’s get it!
Friday Nov. 11
First and foremost Happy Veteran’s Day! I’d like to extend a heartfelt “Thank you” to all the servicemen and women and their families. Thank you for waking up every morning with the spirit to serve in your heart. A few companies would like to thank you this weekend as well. Contact your local post legion or ACS/ MWR office to find out about who is offering what.
***Lowe’s and Home Depot give a 10% military discount to vets and active duty personnel all year round***
Still some great fotoseptiembre exhibits going on around town! fotoseptiembreusa.com
Wurtzfest 2011…all I can say is get there early.
Rock n’ Roll Marathon kicks off this Thursday and continues on into Sunday (race day). Come out and enjoy the huge party before you cheer on your fellow San Antonians to the finishline. http://runrocknroll.competitor.com/san-antonio
Ever tried speed dating? Drew’s American Grill is offering you a great chance to pop that cherry! The event is exclusive to 35-52 year olds and the first 15 male and 15 female participants. $15 in advance $25 at the door. Service members with valid ID get 50% off the cover charge. Check out scenergy-dating.com for details.
Batty for Brahms? The San Antonio Symphony is teaming up with the UTSA Concert Choir and San Antonio Symphony Mastersingers for a tribute to Johannes Brahms at the Majestic Theater. 8pm $8-$65, majesticempire.com
Richard Lewis (Curb your Enthusiasm, Robin Hood: Men in Tights) will be performing at the LOL San Antonio Comedy Club in celebration of their two year anniversary. 8pm $22.50, lolsanantonio.com
Into Shakespeare? Three, count ‘em THREE companies are putting on Shakespearean plays! See “A Mid-Summer’s Night Dream” at Edgewood Fine Arts Academy for $5 (seating is limited call for reservations) then see “Twelfth Night” at the Stieren Theater at Trinity University for $10, then “Hamlet” at SAC’s McAllister Auditorium for $10 (Thursday, Saturday, and Sunday)! Awesome!
Bring a lawn chair and your aspirations for the future to Woodlawn Lake’s Casting Pond for Party for the Planet at 7pm.
Karaoke anyone? Meet me at Luther’s cafe at 10pm.
"Art on the Hill" Neighborhood Art Walk is free and would be a nice date night. tobinarts.com
Black Ninja: A Rock Opera? YES! 8pm at the Rose Theater Co.
"The volume goes up to 11…" This is Spinal Tap and if that is your favorite movie, you can join other fans at 7pm for the Quote A Long at the Stone Oak Alamo Drafthouse.
Saturday November 12:
The Wounded Warriors Project’s Soldier Ride arrives in San Antonio. You can help raise money to support the WWP’s services and projects to ensure that we always thank and care for the men and women that protect us. soldierride.org
Always wanted to learn to line dance? Head to the International Folk Culture Center with your favorite dish for their Potluck/Line Dance Lunch. 10am, $8, Our Lady of the Lake University
Start your Saturday with a clear mind after the meditation class at the San Antonio Museum for the Arts. 10:15 am, free with admission, cushions and stools are provided!
"Peter Pan" will be performed at The Connection at 7pm. Tickets and seating is first come, first served. Call (210) 559-9085 for more info.
Want funny and clean? Then ComedySportz is what you’ve been looking for! $10 for you and $5 for the kids! cszsa.com But If you want something a little more spicy, the Overtime Theater has it, $8 liveatfloors.com
Do you know what the “whistle register” is? What to hear it? thecarver.org RachelleFerrell.com
4th Annual Latino Music Festival starts at noon and goes hard till midnight at the Main Plaza. mainplaza.org
Ever been to Don Strange ranch? $500 may be a good reason to check it out. dsramazingrace.evevtbrite.com.
Ahh, I really love Saytown and here are a few reasons why:
Friday, Nov. 4
FotoSeptiembre is still going strong! Check fotoseptiembreusa.com for an art house near you!
I don’t usually post about music here but Soul Prodigy will be performing at Luna Fine Music club. Andrea “Vocab” Sanderson shows off her vocal talents in this neo-soul group. Visit lunalive.com for details.
At the Cibolo Nature Center learn about native plants and how Native Americans used them in their daily lives. Register online at www.cibolo.org/calen
dar or call 830-249-4616.
Beethoven First Friday, German food, beer, and live entertainment? Hmm, you may find me here! $2, 5pm, Beethoven Maennerchor Halle und Garten, 422 Pereida, http://beethovenmaennerchor.com/
Put those networking skill in action at the Alamo City Black Chamber of Commerce Annual Gala. Tickets are $125 and Dr. Bernard A. Harris will be there to talk about striking out in the world on his own as an entrepreneur. 6pm, Grand Hyatt Hotel, 210-226-9055
Looking to chill or get something off your chest? It’s Open Mic Night at Local Coffee on 700 E. Sonterra BLVD, localcoffeesa.com
If you can’t bear the thought of Halloween being over, all of the local Haunted houses are still open this weekend
St. Mary’s Music University is performing an original opera called “Crooked Stitches;” the story of three generations of women and how their families deal with their dementia. 7:30, $7, Treadway Recital Hall
There’s a Reggae Bar in San Antonio? Oh snapz! 2016 Austin Hwy, Happy Hour 4-9
Rachel Feinstein is performing at the Laugh Out Loud Comedy Club! She hilarious! $15, 8pm and 10:15pm, lolsanantonio.com
Gushy for Gershwin? Sebastian Lang-Lessing salutes American pop music at the Laurie Auditorium, $12-$65, 8pm-12am, 715 Stadium Dr.
Play Loteria at Say Si’s 5 Annual Muertitos Fest, saysi.org
Know a high schooler who has no idea what’s next? Bring them to Sam Houston High School’s Tackline Career and College Readiness program. There will be free resources, workshops, performances and more! 9am
Get out your notebooks! San Antonio Romance Authors presents author Jodi Thomas of the series Whispering Mountain, Harmony, and Wife Lottery. She will lecture on two topics: (1) Time and Deadline Management (2) Developing Charisma (interactive with attendees) After the meeting, she will be conducting a book-signing at the Barnes & Noble at Potranco and Loop 1604 from 1-4 PM.
The Texas Reptile Expo and Sale is at the Live Oak Civic Center from 10a-5pm, $8
Find all sorts of handmade crafts at the Fall Arts Festival at Zion Lutheran Church, 10 am
The annual Starlight Holiday Light Up at The Ally on Bitters from 10 a.m.-8 p.m. begins today. Food+music+shopping=fun! While you’re there, stock up at their Farmer’s Market!
Looking for a free cooking lesson? Check out the Bread and Roses: Salud San Antonio healthy eating event. The University of Texas Health & Science Center the will offer information regarding cancer screenings, healthy eating and cooking. Includes a complimentary light lunch. Guadalupe Street Coffee Shop, 1pm
Happy Teach a Friend to Homebrew Day! Learn the art at Ranger Creek Brewing, 9am
AMC Theaters and the Autism Society present a Sensory Friendly Film with no previews, dimmed lights, and lowered sound to bring families affected by Autism and other disabilities a special opportunity to enjoy movies in a safe and acceptation environment on a monthly basis. They are showing Puss and Boots at AMC Rivercenter 9, 10am
Finesse Fashion Show at Aloft hotel, 5pm, 210-541-8881
Afterglowproject.org Mmmm I’m warm just thinking about it!
Diwali Festival of Lights! diwalisa.com
Decided what you want to do this weekend? Yeah, me either! Post pis of your weekend activities on the Facebook site!
Good promotion into the slow season would be fronts for five, where you mow someone’s front yard for $5 or $15 (you could say fronts for $10 but that kills the alliteration and I’m all about phonetics). The trick here is doing that extra to make the customers’s yard look better than the neighbor’s at no additional charge. Trim the hedges or edge the yard, hit your local nursery’s year end clearance and introduce some color into the yard. Anything as long you over-deliver. Don’t make a big deal of it either, thank them for their business by mouth and send them a thank you card later. Man, a thoughtful handwritten thank you card can take you places. I should do better about sending them out.
Organize a trade event. Put together a conference for under-served niches like truck drivers, or an exotic pet expo, anything you don’t normally hear about happening. Or craft weekend social retreats for entrepreneurs, CEO’s, or the newly unemployed. Use your connections to find experts to host two informational workshops and fill the day with ice breakers.
Recession Thursdays! Sell your Special du Jour at cost and mark up alcohol. It’s like a happy hour on steroids. Bakeries could have a “fudge it” Fridays and attract customers with free fudge samples. Brainstorm interesting relevant promotions to get people in the door.
I know it was a movie but some guys out there need help talking to women or with developing social skills in general. Contract your services as a professional wingman or hold a communication skills workshop. Ladies, are you tired of seeing women around town looking like a hot mess? As a personal stylist you can put your eye for style to work and hopefully put an end to the “smdh’s” on WorldStarHipHop.com
Good Luck, Let me know if can help! Have you started a business recently? What were some of your biggest hassles? Motivators?
Marketers love to make you feel horrible and empty. How else are they going to convince you to buy a product or service that you don’t need unless they demonstrate how uncool you are without it?
For example, drinking Smartwater seems pretty silly once you realize that the bottled water industry is unregulated so you are more than likely drinking tap water. Drenching one’s self in Axe body spray is a sure sign that your grownup game is off and despite it’s cool, refreshing taste, Coke will eat away battery acid. Although I know all of these things, I still drink bottled water, entertain men who’ve never heard of Polo Black, and and enjoy the occasional cola. Marketers: 1, Me: 0.
Soon, I will meet head to head with my foe in the epic battle royale known as the Holiday Season. Commercials will convince me to take on more debt (layaway is back at Wally World, yall!), to find a cuddle buddy (thanks Trojan Man, but I’m good), and to forget that it is actually wintertime (shout out to club promoters who throw lingerie parties in December…). But this year I refuse to be made to feel anything less than awesome. I’m taking a stand!
Here are the top five advertising myths about the holidays I’ll be debunking in the coming months:
1) Your family will stress you out during the holidays. You must buy my product to ease the strain.
I don’t know about y’all but I got some funny acting folks in my family that love to ruin a good time. Every year without fail I end up riding to family gatherings with them. Inevitably, someone pops off at the mouth and I got to leave along with them. This year, I’m over 18 and I have a functioning vehicle; if family starts acting funny I’m going to sit tight sipping my hot cocoa and wish them a safe trip back or if family starts stressing me out I’m going to fix up a plate and ride back to my peaceful home/hotel. Thank you for the offer but the only thing I’m buying is a full tank of gas.
2) Cooking for a small army is tough. Buy my product that does some crazy amazing thing that you have to do in order to impress all these open mouths.
a) I ain’t cooking shit, b) A potluck Thanksgiving sounds like a great idea during these tough times, and c) All those open mouths don’t start talking trash about your meal until they are finished eating, anyway. So you can go to strains to impress them and still hear complaints or relax, do satisfactory work, and listen to them whine regardless.
3) If you don’t get him that perfect gift, he’ll leave you. Luckily, we have just what he wants.
I’m single, now what? I think I’m going to save the money I would have spent on him and make some thoughtful gifts for my family (my macaroni cards were a huge hit last year).
4) If you don’t buy your family these wildly expensive gifts, their holidays will be ruined and they will hate you forever.
If my family were materialistic like that, I’d be okay with them hating me for not buying them something I couldn’t afford. In all actuality, we’re poor so gratitude is the feeling most likely to be expressed during gift exchanging.
5) Cold bad. Beer good.
Basically! I can’t argue with the truth— Marketers you win once again!
I know I typically cook something new and interesting to share with yall but this week was a rough one and I just wanted to bask in something familiar. So I enjoyed a nice dinner at my favorite restaurant Auden’s Kitchen (www.audenskitchen.com).
When I first moved to San Antonio, Auden’s Kitchen was the first restaurant I went to (by myself, of course). From the moment I saw their patio, I knew this was the start of a beautiful relationship. With the demands of school and all, it had been a solid two and a half months since I had been able to enjoy a meal there. Nonetheless, when I walked in, Nick, a server who had been an absolute joy to me earlier in the summer, said, “Hey Tiara, how are you doing?” That completely floored me! After Nick sat me at my favorite spot on the patio I spoke with Ivan Rios, the General Manager, to get permission to snap pics and write this review. He was very friendly and thanked me for asking. Grant came a little while later to take my drink order. On the chalkboard behind the hostess stand that lists the specials of the day, I saw a colorful promo for the Blueberry Mojito ($9). I don’t like mojitos but I figured why not? Grant then left to give me a chance to look over the menu. There have been a good deal of changes since my last meal here.
Auden’s is known for their incredible wine list or at least that’s why I went there in the first place. I noticed they had some of my favorites still there and the additions were very interesting. I’ve never had a Monstrell, but I definitely see myself coming back to try the varietal by Olivares Altos de la Hoya from Jumilla ($10 a glass).
They nixed my favorite beer, Bombardier Real Ale by Wells and Young’s, England (I have no idea where to go to find this now *sadface*) and replaced it with Sno-Cap Winter brew by Pyramid Breweries, Oregon. I was upset but then Grant suggested that I try the new beer. It was definitely a winter brew; thick, heavy, and a beautiful balance of hops and malt. I would willingly volunteer to be snowed in with Flavor Flav if I had an unlimited supply of this beer on draft.
Anywho, the blueberry mojito came out and it was stunning. Muddled fresh blueberries and spearmint sat gracefully at the bottom of the glass while the liquor danced around in all it’s purple glory about the rest of the glass. As Grant said, “It makes you just want to sit and smile at it.” Indeed it does. I took a sip from the middle and I smiled. The mint was subtle while the blueberry was genuine and fresh. Light and peppy, it was the perfect drink to toast away the end of summer. When you finish the drink, eat the blueberry and mint too. I’m not sure if it’s couth but it damn sure is delicious!
I ordered something new, the Beef Short Ribs (21.50). “Blanco Stout braised, falling of the bone, skin on mashers, and bacon apple sauerkraut.”
I didn’t really too much enjoy the meal until I had the leftovers later on at work. That sauce really made everything— it set off the apple in the sauerkraut and was nice mixed with the mashed potatoes. If you get this meal, get it to-go and let the flavors mingle for a few hours. If you are looking for something delicious to enjoy right then I’d recommend the Pork Chop or the Trout (oooh that trout was banging!). Next time I’m going to have the Pork chop with the Monstrell.
NOTE: Auden’s is revamping their menu and are poised to start offering Quail, marinated in tamarind sauce with asian slaw. I’m very exited to see what 2012 has in store for my favorite haunt.
If you are tired of watching the same episode of Bob the Builder, take the brood out to the San Antonio Children’s Museum for their Science City exhibit. Kids can spend all day learning about aerodynamics, momentum, and architecture. $7 9am-5pm, 305 East Houston.
Aerodynamics not your thing? What about pirate ships? SHIPWRECK! at the Witte may be right up your alley, matey! www.wittemuseum.org
World renown paintings and tacos? YES! Artpace’s Taco Truck Fridays sound like the best option for lunch, but make sure you bring cash for your meal. 12pm, www.artpace.org
Bolero? Yeah, I don’t know what that is either but for $3 I’m more than willing to find out. 7pm, 4707 Broadway, Salon Mexico 210-533-7750
The San Antonio School for Inquiry and Creativity presents its annual Harvest Fest. Food, games, music, classrooms haunted by the spirits of F average students, you know, the usual. 5pm, 4616 San Pedro, 210-738-0020
I kicked myself for missing the unveiling of the San Antonio Botanical Gardens “Amazing Butterflies” exhibit. But trust, I will take my turn on the zip line soon. Oh, you didn’t know about the zip line? :) $8, 555 funston, www.sabot.org
Bush. Chevelle. I really only need those two words to get you hyped for this epic concert. Sunken Garden Theater, $32.50, 5:30pm, (888)-512-SHOW
Orchid Fandango! The Alamo Orchid Society Show and Sale will be amazing. Orchids are some of the most elegant and showy flowers I’ve ever seen. Enthusiasts from all over the world will be showing off their beauty at this three day conference!!! Omni Hotel, 9821 Colonnade, $5, 10am-5pm.
Let’s go hangout at the museum! No, seriously! The Institute of Texan Cultures is hosting an adults only Halloween masquerade party. Eat, Drink, and Dance but be wary of the ghosts of entertainers past lurking in the corners! 8pm-Midnight, $25, 21 and up. texancultures.com
If you’re looking to get out of town, head to Flatonia for the 39th Annual Chzilispiel Festival. Beer, BBQ, Bands, and Czhili…worth checking out just to find out what czhili is… flatoniachamber.com/czhili.
EntreFlamenco will be performing a full length show of Southern Spain inspired performances at their studio on 5407 Bandera, Suite 107 at 8:30 pm. I <3 Flamenco!!! www.entreflamenco.com
Ghostpizza.com Just have a look, you’ll love it!
Saturday October 29th, even more goodies to enjoy!!
5 Terrifying Things You can do Today to Become a Better Person
Change is good. It is what keeps our undies fresh and tollbooth workers happy. Unfortunately, change is hard. Fortunately, we can take daily steps toward changing ourselves for the better. Here’s a quick list of 5 things you can do tomorrow that will get you started on the road to change.
NOTE: These things may vary on your personal scale of scariness.
1.) Introduce yourself to your neighbors
You don’t have to take anything with you but a smile. Too often we replace actual face to face time with poking and tweeting and texting. set aside an hour to learn about the people who may call the cops the next time you have a break-in or who’ll bake you cookies because it’s Tuesday.
2.) Introduce yourself to three strangers.
You can spend a little time thinking of a clever segue but often “Hello” will do nicely. Ask them about themselves and actually listen to their response. The less you talk the better.
3.) Give that homeless guy on the corner a dollar and wish him luck.
Let’s be honest, you’re only a broken leg away from where he is, so why not put out some good karma?
4.) Watch a documentary or docudrama about someone/thing you’ve never heard about.
Little known facts are fascinating and knowledge of a counterculture is always impressive. Plus you just learned something new! New knowledge is the first step towards change.
5.) Call your siblings or your folks or your best friend and repeat the following, “Hey (insert name here)! I just wanted to let you know that I’m proud of you and I love you very much. Have a great day!”
This, in my opinion, is the most terrifying of them all. You kinda just expect people to know that you care about them and that you love them…but how could they know unless you said it? Plus the mushiness gets awkward. I told this to my Dad once and he carefully replied, “Ok, Nicole, that’s very nice…you aren’t going anywhere are you?” Apparently to tell my family members that I love them is a notice that I’ll be committing suicide soon. I <3 Chapmans…
“This is your life. Do what you love, and do it often. If you don’t like something, change it. If you don’t like your job, quit. If you don’t have enough time, stop watching TV. If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; they will be waiting for you when you start doing things you love. Stop over analyzing, life is simple. All emotions are beautiful. When you eat, appreciate every last bite. Open your mind, arms, and heart to new things and people, we are united in our differences. Ask the next person you see what their passion is, and share your inspiring dream with them. Travel often; getting lost will help you find yourself. Some opportunities only come once; seize them. Life is about the people you meet and the things you create with them, so go out and start creating. Live your dream, and wear your passion. Life is short.”
I found the above quote on Facebook and I love it. I’m not sure who these “The Buried Life” people are but the tag line on their page is
1) Do epic shit. 2) Help people email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Last night I was conversing with a friend about dreams and goals. She’s in school right know pursuing a degree in biology but her passion is really art. Her parents wanted her to have a lucrative career and the sciences seemed the best route for that… but she hates it. I asked her, “So why do are you doing it? Is the money worth the time wasted? When are we allowed to live for ourselves?” Conversation got pretty deep.
If I were to live life epically, I know backpacking would be involved. But something is holding me back. My parents think I’m successful and are proud of me but what if my being happy meant selling the house and bumming around Europe and the Americas? Could I stomach the disappointment? Could I withstand the withering looks when people ask me what I do and I answer “Play in the dirt?”
Venturing into entrepreneurship has been eye opening. You’d be amazed how many people think you’re crazy, selfish, lazy, or shiftless once you decide you want to take a different path through life. Lewis Williams (ihustlenation.com) put out a vlog recently called “10 Reason You Not Gon Change” and grammar aside he made a great point in commenting on how your inner circle influences you and your actions. I wonder what my friends and family are holding me back from accomplishing…I wonder if I’ll overcome their feelings about my life and start living epically…
What would your life look like if you lived it epically?
A few weeks ago when I tried acorn squash for the first time, my friend Kristen Crenshaw (http://shemustgofree.blogspot.com/) recommended that I try her version of butternut and acorn squash soup. After having enjoyed the acorn squash so much, of course I was game for this new dish. There are three versions of the recipe. You can make it with brown sugar and cashews, cinnamon and cream cheese, or with a fresh organic Honeycrisp apple. I headed to the store to pick up everything I needed to try each version
From there everything was pretty simple. I seeded and cooked the squash.
Scooped out the squash flesh.
And added the other necessary ingredients.
Here is where I ran into problems. I don’t think things through very well and so when I saw the recipe, I jumped into it…without realizing it calls for a food processor….and guess who doesn’t have one….yeah.
So then I came up with the bright idea of using a hand mixer. I swear to you I was not high or drinking or anything; it just seemed logical to me that if I wanted the soup to have the relative consistency of cake batter, why not use the machine that properly mixes cake batter?
There’s squash on my roof and I have vaulted ceilings…it doesn’t come out of your clothes easily and cinnamon in your eye will cause it to water…..profusely…for an hour. Despite this mishap, this soup is delicious! My favorite is the cream cheese and cinnamon version.
NOTE: I halved the recipe in some aspects and eye measured some ingredients. I love that you can play around freely with this added more of what you like and less of things you don’t like. If you are making it the feature of your dinner be sure to invite your neighbors over, you’ll have plenty to share and freeze to enjoy through out the fall!
What a beautiful story and project! I’m not sure when the last time was that I sat and really listened to someone’s story. I think that’s pretty sad b/c we all have such interesting stories to tell. I’m going to try this. There’s an art to listening to people and I want to learn it! Feel free to call me and tell me your story or post it below.
From Zone 8 to Cell Block to Urban Network Bookstore
by Trent Gilliss, senior editor
“My mama became my hero and my father became my mentor.” —Yusef Shakur
Hunkered down in a WDET motor city hoodie and a down sleeping bag listening to KAXE in northern Minnesota, I caught the first episode of The Listening Post, a documentary series from the BBC that “invites close, unhurried listening to the stories of individuals.” And wouldn’t you know it, the first profile tells the story of a Detroit native.
Yusef Shakur, who now runs a bookstore and community center in Zone 8, grew up in the same neighborhood and became a gangster as a teenager. At the age of 19 in 1992, he began serving a nine-year prison sentence. While there, he reaches out to his father who’s also serving time — a man he’s never met and considers “a sperm donor.” His father’s reply changes the course of his life:
“Son, let your past mistakes become your teacher because your mistakes can become our greatest education. … You must use this time to prepare yourself to leave better than what you came in as. Turn your cell into a university by rebuilding yourself from the inside out. … P.S. You misspelled knowledge, religion, envelope, address, message and religious. If you don’t have a dictionary, you need to get one. Words are powerful because they convey who we are. Use your mind to free yourself or somebody will use your mind to keep you a slave.”
It’s a story about the power of a lost father’s love, hope and resurrection, and a tale of the meaning of time and attention in the most dire of circumstances.
Friday afternoon I woke up excited because in less than 14 hours I would be in Austin at the Texas Book Festival! I floated through the day giddy at the prospect of impressing Alton Brown with my knowledge of sheep’s milk cheeses and seducing Justin Torres. I was chomping at the bit to gas up the Silver Bullet and start the 70 mile trip. Then I got an email reminding me that “Chinese Dance practice would be at Northwest Vista Community College at 12pm sharp! Don’t be late!” I forgot that I’d signed up for this last week…nice… oh Mr. Torres your boyish good looks have eluded me once again…
Anywho, my weekend wasn’t completely done for!
Friday, I went to Bubblehead Tea to enjoy Andrea “Vocab” Sanderson’s amazing voice. A wonderfully supportive crowd of people from all over Texas cheered and bobbed their head to R.E.A.L. Music’s female counterpart. Her vocal prowess is a feat to behold. Mad rhymes, complex metaphors, and a soulful melody combine on Sessions in Flight, a homage to God, soul music, and the human experience. I know this will be on blast in the Silver Bullet for a while. Don’t sleep on this talent! You can find her music on http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/andreavocabsanderson
Saturday was the Korean Kimchi festival at UTSA. It was awesome! The food was spicy, costumes were beautiful, and I met some amazing people!
Tomorrow will feature my attempt to make Acorn and Butternut Squash soup!
San Antonians are we in for a treat or what?!! Last weekend was insane and if you missed it let that be a lesson to you. The 20th Herb Market at Pearl Brewery brought in scores of first timers and I had a blast talking about plants all day! Breaking down ran late and I unfortunately missed the Beer Fest but from what I heard Texans know their beer and are masters at the craft. Next time you’re in HEB, look at the singles rack and check out Ugly Pug Black Lager by the Rahr Brothers of Fort Worth, TX. I’m no connoisseur, I just know what I like and I liked that there was no strong aftertaste like you’d get with most black lagers. I could see it going well with chili or a hearty beef stew.
Anywho, if you missed out there’s even more going on this weekend!
Friday, October 21
Ease on down the road to the Woodlawn Theater to see The Renaissance Guild’s performace of “the Wiz.” Tickets are $19-22 and the show starts at 7pm. For more info and showtimes call (210) 738-1117.
Head down to the Blue Star Contemporary Art Center for a look at this years FotoSepteimbre submissions. Call (210) 227-6960 for hours. Check out http://www.fotoseptiembreusa.com/ to learn about this annual event.
Woman, Thou art Loosed! Yeah I said it, now what? Just kidding, head over to Lakewood Church in Houston for a powerful three day conference to inspire you on toward greatness. http://wtal.org/
Want to get your inspiration closer to home? Head to the Alamodome for the Women of Faith two day conference. 10am, $99 Call (210) 207-3663 for more info.
The 2nd annual Shops at La Cantera Art festival starts at 10 am. Over 100 local, national, and international artists will be featuring and selling pieces during this event. Call (281) 222-6820 for more info.
Need to keep the kids occupied? Send them to the Magik Theater for Richard Rosen’s “Who let the Ghosts Out” a stage comedy adapted from R.L. Stine’s “Mostly Ghostly” book series. Showtimes start at 9:45 am $9-10. Call (210) 227-2751 for more info.
The Overtime theater just keeps putting on great shows! Check out D.O.A. a Noir Musical 8pm $9-12. There will be a live band playing along and they have a nice bar. Why not? theovertimetheater.org
Remember the move the Olivia Newton-John wants to forget? See the stage production at the San Pedro Playhouse! $15-25 Show starts at 8! sanpedroplayhouse.com
Sci-Fi not your thing? Check out “Time Stands Still” at the San Pedro Playhouse, same time, same price!
Let’s do the Time Warp! It wouldn’t be October without the Rocky Horror Picture show! Check out the live performance at Woodlawn Theater. $19-22 10:30 pm. woodlawntheatre.com
What do you get when you mix two 50 year olds and one 50 day old? Head over to Spotlight Theater for their performance of “Be My Baby” to find out. Showtime at 8pm $10-18.
”Steel Magnolias” bring some tissue and an appetite for the Zion Lutheran Church of Helotes Family Life Center production. Call (210) 688-3090 for more info.
St. Margaret Mary Halloween Carnival. 3-10pm Free at St. Margaret Mary Catholic Church.
The first Coaching Youth for Life Day 5K run at Ernst Eikel Park. New Braunfels, 9am. To register, visit nbrunclub.com.
"The Classic Theatre tackles the heavy symbolism and enforced mourning that haunts The House of Bernarda Alba". $10-$25 8pm at the Sterling Houston Theater in the Blue Star Arts Complex http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/193565
So I’m at my word limit for now, I’ll post the rest of the goings on tomorrow with a taste of what I’ll be up to this weekend!
We are all one idea away from success. If you don’t believe me read “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. Anywho, lately I’ve been coming up with some great ideas that I can’t implement for a variety of reasons (Lack of interest or desire, doesn’t appeal to me, laziness, ect.). But there’s no need for me to hold on to them so I’ll share them with you! I’m not sure whether each idea will be a new post or if I’ll just edit this post as more ideas come to me. Which would be easier for you to read? Also, are you an entrepreneur? I’d love to hear about your experiences. If you find that an idea resonates with you let me know (Join the group page on FB or message me @ email@example.com) and I’ll pass on all sorts of helpful resources!
Free business idea #1. For those teachers out of work, you may want to look into marketing yourself as a substitute home school teacher for when parents are sick or temporarily unable to teach their kids. Or starting an online class for the subject you specialize in.
Tim McGraw’s “Live Like You were Dying” is the one song that can instantly bring tears to my eyes. I think that song stirs me so much because a part of me deep down inside knows I’m wasting time. There’s so much I want to do and so much I want to say that pride and possessions keep me from saying and doing. I wonder what it would be like to truly take that leap. I wonder what it would be like to live everyday like it was my last…what would I do? What would *you* do? Are there any songs that strike your heart and make you ponder existential questions?
I just realize that I haven’t enabled comments for all of my blog posts. If something struck you in particular like me on Facebook. If you just want to say “hi!” like me on Facebook!
One of the benefits to being single is that I get to eat/cook whatever I want. I love trying new things: weird looking fruit? Sign me up! Strange turnover looking thing? Two please. I’m not sure how you pronounce that dish garcon, but I’m certain it is what I want. Life is all about new experiences and now is the perfect time to try them. Especially before you have to worry about anyone else’s sensitive stomach or taste buds.
So tonight I’m cooking acorn squash.
Sounds pretty tame right? Well I’ve never had it. Winter squashes have a great reputation as something new and different. They come in all sorts of flavors, colors, and shapes. So why not? Let’s have a go at it!
Acorn squash takes an hour to cook via oven. First you cut it in half and take all the seeds out. My knives aren’t the sharpest so I didn’t get two perfect halves (it’s okay, neither the squash nor the oven know this). Next, you take out all it’s innards. This is called seeding. Then, you put the halves in a dish and pour about a quarter inch of water in it. not sure how much water I put in it or how big the pan is but I know I filled it a quarter of the way with water.
Next, you put the halves open side down in the pan for 30 minutes on 375F. Then flip it and bake for another 30 min. Here is where you can sprinkle some cinnamon, nutmeg, honey, or brown sugar on it. I chose honey. 30 Minutes later this is what I got.
The verdict? Not half bad, the honey gave it a lot of it’s original flavor but as I got deeper into it, I notice it has a flavor all its own, sort of like eating a really good potato. I’d try it again very near future!
What have been your experiences with winter squashes?
So Lewis H. Williams III of ihustleation.com hosts a weekly webshow every Tuesday where he invites people to call in with their relationship questions. His advice is solid and he has a genuine interest in helping people to do better in their lives. I’m pleased to admit that he’s an all around inspiring kinda guy. His life story alone is worth checking him out at ihustlenation.com.
Towards the end of last week’s show, a caller named Darren asked a great question, “Can you sum up in one word or phrase what makes you irreplaceable?”
Lewis said his smarts make him irreplaceable. He know how to make things happen. His ability to know how things operate and thus manipulate them in order to get the things he wants, makes him a valuable second half.
I think my sense of adventure makes me irreplaceable. I’m an asset to friends and family because they know that hanging out with me means there is never a dull moment. I’m into so many different things and such an active and positive person that I just walk around smiling and ready to jump at every opportunity. My friends appreciate that.
Now I pose the same question to yall; What makes you irreplaceable?
This was a great question one of my facebook friends posed. I’m curious to see how yall would respond to it.
“Question…I AM YOUR HERO… I was talking to a Friend and she asked me what would i want my wife to think or say about me. After thinking about it for a Minute. I would want my wife to say that..I AM HER HERO.. Her knight in shining armor. I guess i want my wife to know that i am her protector and provider. I AM HER HERO.. My Question is.. What things would you like to be able to say about your Husband or Wife.. What words would define him/her?”
What do you think makes you special? Why do your friends call you when they need help? What about yourself makes you feel your best? What makes you awesome (and trust me you are)?
This past weekend I had the pleasure of attending The Ladies Roundtable Conference in Garland, TX. Boy, what an odyssey. Friday evening I finished packing my weekend bag and armed with a few groceries for the five hour drive I set out for the Hyatt Regency in Dallas. My novice young mind rationalized five hours of driving as “no biggie” and “a cinch.” I was barely out of Austin before I realized how little I had thought this through. But there was no turning back now! I was Dallas bound!
Growing up, I didn’t have much in the way of female role models so when opportunities come along to take part in sisterhood and buy cute shoes I immediately hop on them. I learned about the The Ladies Roundtable via Facebook from a promotion by Jen-gerbread Marketing. I had previously met the owner of the company on a New Orleans trip last January that was put together by Lewis Williams of IHustleNation.com (seriously, I’m not too keen on staying in the house). Her story about entrepreneurship was so inspiring. I knew right then as she spoke about her experiences that this woman was one to watch. Message her on Facebook and ask her about it, I guarantee you’ll feel the same way.
Anywho, I bought my tickets to the conference early, uber excited about the seminars on beauty, fashion, finance and health. The itinerary evolved daily, incorporating more presentations, performances, and motivational topics. It wasn’t until the week of the event that I noticed Saturday’s big event: The Relationship Panel.
I’d had plenty of experiences with those in my college days. A feature of Black Student Union week was the “Relationship Forum” or better titled, “45 Minutes on the Problem with You and Other Members of Your Sex.” Every year we would host these matches hoping to get some serious questions answered and find some understanding….and every year, I’d come away feeling annoyed and disgusted. Upset not so much with men as I was with myself, knowing that I’d never live up to their ideal/wants/needs ect. and desiring less and less to even attempt to.
I expected about as much from the Ladies Roundtable Relationship Panel and I wasn’t disappointed. Trending right now in the Black community is the perceived lack of eligible bachelors and the hassles that single women deal with in looking for a husband. Needless to say, this was going to be entertaining.
Featured on the panel was Steven “The Relationship Beast” Dixon (married), Lewis Williams III (single) Dessie Brown (unknown), Khalil Long (unknown), Victor Adetiba (unknown), “Q” (married), Rico Knight (unknown), Trent Shelton (I hope he’s single), Corey/Big Tex (married), and Big Boom (married).
Most of the men had strong (loud) opinions about what women were doing wrong and so did some women in the audience. The most scandalous comments came from the married men. One woman asked why weren’t hairy legs sexy and Big Boom replied that women need to shave b/c he was tired of picking hair out of his teeth, while Q said that he didn’t want his chin all cut up. Both gentleman’s families were in the audience, I suspect they are used to suggestive comments like that. Big boom also mentioned his disdain for women who didn’t know how to exit a car properly and I instantly imagined myself exiting a car in all manners of ways: falling out of it, somersaulting out of the driver’s seat, pressing the “eject” button. I tried to hide the giggle but got strange stares anyway.
One thing that struck me were comments about women being defamed in popular music. The men proposed that black women are the main consumers of the very lyrics that insult us (I’d like to know where those numbers came from seeing as how RIAA only takes age, gender, genre, and medium demographics) and thus encourage the artists to continue putting out what sells. So the onus is placed back on us: we invite disrespect. There are no safe spaces in which to celebrate our bodies and are thus encouraged to repress the side of ourselves that wants to drop it like it’s hot for no other reason then that it’s fun! Per the panel, bodyrockin’ is unladylike and should only be expressed in the confines of the home for your man, at his convenience of course. Some of the women agreed, alluding that low self esteem and poor self image are to explain for the actions of women who indulge in tight clothing and Plies albums.
I, of course disagree. If you want to dance, f*cking dance. No one has the right to touch you without invitation and if they do you have every right to punch them dead in the throat. Understand that you need to memorize a fake name and number b/c taking men you meet in nightclubs seriously is an epic fail.
Anywho, the time came for questions/comments from the audience and the moderator asked all the single women why they were even at the conference if they didn’t have any questions, insinuating that that we were merely there to figure out what it takes to find a man, nevermind the empowerment seminars and delightful presentations. No, apparently our existence is poised on the adornment, or lack thereof, of the ring finger. Thankfully a brave woman pointed out that she was there to have a good time with her friends and that that was reason enough.
The blaming and finger pointing continued on and I have to admit I left feeling salty and resentful. You can say I’m independent or whatever but the simple truth is that I’m a grown ass woman and it’s my job to support myself. You can say I’m selfish but I’ve taken calculated steps to be able to live life in the most uncompromising way possible. Call it whatever you’d like but if my personality is going to be a problem for your ego, I entreat you to move around.